How to give your child a rich life – without raising entitled kids (Rule 3, 4 & 5 of 9)

Rule 3 of 9

Empower your child by giving her the chance to learn the value of hard work.

Remember the days when kids did odd jobs all holiday to earn money for a bike?  Those kids knew the worth of a Rand, took care of their bikes, and felt enormously empowered.  They knew they could realise their dreams by working hard. I’m not saying you can’t buy a new bike just because your child outgrew her old one, but all children need to learn that if they work hard at things, they can make their dreams come true. They learn more from earning than from just being handed things. And the pursuit of a goal is rewarding in itself.

Rule 4 of 9

Help your child learn how to hold a job.

Earning money at home is one thing, but there’s nothing as educational as working for someone outside the family for pay, which teaches real responsibility in the real world.  Start when your eight year old wants something badly and her birthday’s still far off, by paying her to do tasks you wouldn’t normally expect of her (washing the car, weeding the garden). But over time, be sure this expands to odd jobs in the neighbourhood (walk the neighbour’s dog or offer a mowing the lawn service), then to mother’s helper/babysitting jobs when its age appropriate, and finally to after-school or holiday jobs. Even if your family has plenty and never needs your teenager to work, every teen should learn by experience what it takes to earn a Rand.

Rule 5 of 9

Role Model.

Children won’t always do what you say, but they’ll always, eventually, do what you do.  If you shop for relaxation or fun, so will your child.  If you “must have” the latest tech toy, your child will follow in your footsteps.  If you express gratitude for everything you have, so will your child.


Source: Dr Laura Markham